Respecting Your Identity As a Black Girl

Dear girls,

Anyone who thinks and says that racism does not exist should be removed from your life – no matter who they are. Never befriend anyone – of any race – who does not respect your reality as a Black girl. That is why my circle of friends remains tight and small. Not everyone is worthy of being my friend. 

I love you.

Auntie

Stand Up For Yourself

Dear girls,

I remember when I discovered that Verizon Wireless had been charging me $10 per month for a line that I had deactivated a while ago. The customer service representative tried to give me a hard time. When I asked for her manager, she realized that I am not the one. Her manager found the documentation that I had indeed deactivated the line and credited my account for $70. 

When you are not being treated well and you know you are right, please stand up for yourself. There is nothing cute about being a door mat.

I love you. 

Auntie

Dealing with Weak and Insecure People

Dear sweet girls,

I must admit that I struggle with weak and insecure people, especially women. I don’t care for them, and I feed them with a long-handled spoon. 

I struggle with people with low self-esteem, because they are very dangerous. 

I struggle with people who like to be liked, because they are willing to do anything to be liked. 

I struggle with people who are easily persuaded to do wrong, because they are not loyal to anyone. 

I struggle with jealous people, because they will do anything – no matter how immoral – to have what you have. 

When we meet dysfunctional and mean-spirited girls, nine times out of 10, they learned that behavior from their dysfunctional and mean-spirited mothers. 

Do not be friends with these types of people. Do not become these types of people. When you know better, you do better. My loves, you indeed know better.