Respecting Your Identity As a Black Girl

Dear girls,

Anyone who thinks and says that racism does not exist should be removed from your life – no matter who they are. Never befriend anyone – of any race – who does not respect your reality as a Black girl. That is why my circle of friends remains tight and small. Not everyone is worthy of being my friend. 

I love you.

Auntie

Dealing with Weak and Insecure People

Dear sweet girls,

I must admit that I struggle with weak and insecure people, especially women. I don’t care for them, and I feed them with a long-handled spoon. 

I struggle with people with low self-esteem, because they are very dangerous. 

I struggle with people who like to be liked, because they are willing to do anything to be liked. 

I struggle with people who are easily persuaded to do wrong, because they are not loyal to anyone. 

I struggle with jealous people, because they will do anything – no matter how immoral – to have what you have. 

When we meet dysfunctional and mean-spirited girls, nine times out of 10, they learned that behavior from their dysfunctional and mean-spirited mothers. 

Do not be friends with these types of people. Do not become these types of people. When you know better, you do better. My loves, you indeed know better.

There is Nothing Inferior About You

Dear girls,

Please do not allow other people – especially people of other racial and ethnic backgrounds – to make you feel inferior. 

Yes, you are beautiful. Yes, you are smart. Yes, you are worthy. You don’t have to dress the way they do. You don’t have to think the way they do. As long as you have morals and values and are being productive citizens, do you and be you. 

Since physical appearance seems to be important to a lot of shallow people, I’ll end with this. Your full lips are gorgeous. You want evidence? Women of other races pay big bucks to get what the Lord blessed you with you. Your skin tone is beautiful. You want proof? Women and men of other races pay big bucks to get tans. Your generous hips and butt are remarkable. You want evidence? Women of other races are lining up to get butt implants. Basically these women want what you already have. Their husbands and boyfriends want them to have what you already have. That’s why they are jealous of you. 

Don’t allow haters to make you feel inferior. You are better than that – and you are better than them. Use haters as elevators. Keep rising to the top.

I love you.