Additional Marital Advice for You

Dear girls, 

I truly hope that, when you become an adult, you find unconditional love with the love of your life.

After all of these years, I still get butterflies in my stomach when I hear your uncle’s voice and see his face.

How?

• I do not hold him accountable for making me happy. I hold him accountable for honoring our marriage vows. I am accountable for my own happiness.

• I admit that from time to time, I feel like punching him in the face. However, I never have and never would. LOL! 

• I occasionally ask him what I can do to be a better wife. I listen intently, commit to the actions I know I can improve and “keep it moving” on the rest.

• I am always honest with him – even if it stings. Before the sting begins, I express my love for him, and I do it again after the sting.

• He is my top priority. He knows it, and everyone else knows it. I juggle a lot professionally and personally, but I am accessible and available to him 24/7.

  
  

#KeepingItReal  #BlackLove

Marital Advice for Everyone

Sweet girls, marriage can be so many things – exhilarating, hard, satisfying, frustrating, love-filled, painful and much more.

I asked your uncle to give other men some marital advice. This is what he shared:

• Always tell your wife, “Good morning, beautiful.”

• Listen to your wife and take her advice.

• Realize that you will not win the argument.

• Remember that the way you got her is the way you will keep her.

• Remember that marriage is not based on 50/50. It’s based on a partnership. For example, if you get home from work before your wife, cook dinner. Don’t wait for her to do it.

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My advice to other women follows:

• Tell him what you want and need (emotionally and mentally).

• Do not punish him for other men’s sins.

• Tell him how wonderful, special and sexy he is.

• Tell him and show him that he is the most important person in your life.

  
  

Marriage is truly what you make it. Both parties have to be committed to it. If not, the marriage will not work.