Making Your Own Decisions

Dear nieces,

When I was 18, I told my mama (your grandma) that I did not want to get married or have children. She simply answered, “Then don’t.” I changed my mind about the marriage thing, met the man of my dreams and have been happily married for almost 24 years. Also, I am happily CBC (childless by choice). I love children and am good with them, but I just did not want them. I have never regretted my decision. 

Your uncle and I can come and go as we please, and we get to do things for our nieces (including you), nephews and godchildren that we could not do if we had children. Also, my decision did not deprive your uncle, because he had children before we married. When we first started dating, I told him I did not want children and that if he wanted more, then I was not the woman for him. 

I pray you make your own decisions – based on your dreams and goals and not what others expect of you.

Love,

Your Auntie